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Witch Weekly · February 3, 2019 – 8:57 PM

Do Self-Made Men Make Better Husbands Than Heirs?
The rise of the entrepreneurial spirit and the mass-production mentality, both in the muggle and magical world, means more men now than ever are making a fortune without help from their pedigrees. Still, the (admittedly outdated) fantasy of meeting a charming gentleman with a fortune-filled Gringotts vault continues to persist in society, causing many ladies of modest means to dismiss the idea of marrying the self-made man.

We spoke to Mrs. Millicent MacDougal, a mother of three daughters who married into vastly different positions, who revealed that one of her son-in-laws, a merchant who rose from poverty, defied her expectations following his marriage to her youngest daughter.

"He was always so humble and kind, but I was quick to overlook those qualities at the time," she told us. "I chose to instead focus on what I, at the time, considered to be his less favorable qualities: his position at birth, and his upbringing." Mrs. MacDougal's eldest daughter married a firstborn son in a wealthy family, and the second to a man, who, despite his unexceptional background, possessed political and social connections that opened doorways for her daughter as a budding socialite.

"I always expected my third daughter to follow in their footsteps: to find a wealthy man, or to find a man who she could make wealthy. I was unconsciously pushing my daughter towards self-betterment, while simultaneously dismissing the man who did the same for himself," she reflected. Mrs. MacDougal admits to shunning the match at first, ignoring her daughter's letters and invitations for the first six months after their marriage. "I was so obsessed with status: the bloodlines, the names, the connections. It was only that next Christmas, sitting among my three daughters and their husbands, that I realized my youngest was happier than her two sisters."

Why is that? How could a man, with an unimpressive pedigree and no safety net, make a woman feel more happier, more secure? We at Witch Weekly think we've cracked the code!

Self-made men value their wives more. A man from a wealthier background who married below his station might be more inclined to believe that his wife ought to be thankful for what he's providing her with—and to some extent, he's right! A man who rose from poverty to the middle class, on the other hand, might look at his wife and feel grateful that his life allowed him the privilege of marrying such a woman!
Self-made men put more effort into solving martial disputes. Every self-made man on the planet knows what they have to lose, and what they must do to prevent those losses. From overcoming poor investments to recovering lost supplies, self-made men have to utilize their problem-solving skills daily to ensure they don't end up back in the slums. They're much more likely than wealthier men—who have people to solve problems for them—to seek solutions for marital conflict rather than letting it fester.
Self-made men are hardworking. Whether they know it or not, every woman desires a hardworking man. Even if he possesses the financial means to remain jobless throughout his life's duration, knowing that a man is capable of working in the event of financial ruin is comforting on a subconscious level. There's a reason tall, strong men are considered more attractive than short, skinny ones—and it's not just aesthetics!

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